The life I desire (version 2.0)

life 2.0

One morning when my son was in preschool, my cup was feeling really full and in a moment of supreme clarity, I sat down and wrote the following (this is from the beginning of Ch. 2 on self-care in my book Nurturing the Soul of Your Family: 10 Ways to Reconnect and Find Peace in Everyday Life):

The life I desire is marked by deep connections to my child and partner. It’s a life filled with joy and meaning. It’s a life in which I feel supported and nurtured by an incredible community of men and women— young and old. I experience regular, meaningful, heartfelt connections with people I care about. I am continually open to growth — as a woman, a mother, a partner, and a spiritual being. I enjoy supporting and serving others in a way that feeds me rather than drains me. I feel that I always have enough time in my life for those things that are most important to me. My life flows, I trust my intuition, and I expect good to come to me. I feel peaceful. I am loving, and I feel loved. This is the life I desire.

While this is still true and accurately describes my life over the last ten years, I’m ready for Life 2.0. For a life that is even more spacious, supported and less plugged in.

During my recent digital detox/writing sabbatical, the vision of this “dream life,” came to me on day five. Some of the aspects of my Life 2.0 would include:

•         The space to pursue creative activities related to my work and be unplugged completely twice a month for one to five days
•         Having a team member who checks  my email for me and who does as good or a better job than I do at replying with diplomacy, grace and efficiency
•         Weekly nature excursions with good friends who also have a deep affinity with nature (I’m starting a G.R.I.N. group, which stands for “Girls Renewing in Nature!”)
•         Time and space for long teas with dear friends whenever I like (even twice a month would be divine!)
•         Romantic getaways with my husband at least one night a month and at least one weekend a year
•         Family nature-based vacations locally and nationally every two to three months minimum (these help us recalibrate and all get on the same page–invaluable!)
•         Unbelievable support on the parenting front from amazing heart-centered parenting experts, coaches, teachers and school staff
•         Spiritual direction/support from world-class colleagues, teachers, retreat centers and training
•         Speaking opportunities–both domestic and international–that are extremely well-paying, fun, easy and feed me on all levels

And of course all of these desires are in complete alignment with my income goals. Sound decadent? It does to me, too. But I thought the life I envisioned back in 2004 sounded outrageous and low and behold, it unfolded just as I described it.

In my “dream life,” I feel free, spacious, generous, open, passionate/juicy, aligned, grounded and playful.  I am imbued with a sense of incredible confidence, clarity and discernment and can easily see what is a “Yes,” “Later,” or “No.”

I feel a bit shy about putting this out there as it may sound crazy, impossible or only attainable for the self-employed (my team and I work with many clients who would love to have just one day off a month). But I know that giving voice to a desired vision is one of the most powerful things you can do to bring it to fruition.  I also believe that in sharing my life 2.0 vision, perhaps, maybe, it may inspire you to reflect on what yours might look like, as well.

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  1. crystal fisher says:

    Good morning!
    I appreciate you post today (well, all of your posts for that matter) – like you, I have been on a quest this year to manifest the life that I want to live not the one others expect me to live. I have taken opportunities and risks so far this year that I would not have taken in the past (after 10 years choosing to become licensed – i am psychotherapist and here in Vermont licensure is optional, officially becoming a member of my Unitarian-Universalist fellowship, organizing an “Artists Way” workgroup for my friends and colleagues, after 7 years of living in our 160 year-old farmhouse fixing up and organizing the mudroom – which had previously become a dumping ground of random stuff) and have re-visited some long range goals for my family (working each month to become debt free in 5 years so we can all take a year long sabbatical, ensuring that my partner and I mark and celebrate some essential anniversaries this year – him turning 40, our 15 year wedding anniversary).

    I appreciate your work so much Renee and find your books to be such an inspiration – who knows, maybe I will meet up with you at Kirpalu one of these days!

    • Thanks so much Crystal for sharing the evolution of your life vision–it really inspires me. Am hoping we can all begin to share these with one another and see that the life we desire is attainable –even if it sounds outrageous to others. I’ve made some radical life choices, too, and feel so happy to know that this is a gift we have been given and that we can course-correct at any time. Much love and gratitude to you (yes, I’d love to see you at a retreat–I’ll be at Kripalu in June and Oct)–Renee