What if everything is just perfect?

“If you want reality to be different than what it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark.” Author/teacher Byron Katie

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For the last ten days, I’ve been waking up at 2:30 a.m. and my mind has been chattering wildly about all the problems it perceives in the world, in my life and in my family members’ lives: how are my unemployed friends going to cover their bills this month, my son shouldn’t be on his phone so much, my husband should be getting rid of all his clutter, I should be doing more service work in my community. You get the idea.

Knowing the science behind a gratitude practice, I paused yesterday to write out what I was grateful for. I filled a large 11×7 sheet and felt I could have kept going. When I finished, I wrote at the top of the page, “Everything is perfect,” and then heard my Wise Self whisper, “Remember…..?”

I have always believed that there is a thread of divine order that runs through everything … that what we experience is not random or coincidental but here to help us become more aware, more awake and evolve. When we look at big messy, painful life stuff–death of a loved one, health crises, financial loss or divorce–the idea that everything is perfect sounds insane.

My parents died in their 50s and my brother took his life at age 20. I miss them every day. Yet, as deeply painful and tragic as my losses were, I would not be the catalyst I am today were it not for those life-altering events. Even if it feels impossible or crazy to justify how this is so, I know it in my bones to be true.

Author Marianne Williamson says, “The purpose of our lives is to give birth to the best that is within us.” For the 12 years I was a career coach, I worked with thousands of clients, many of whom experienced or were recovering from devastating loss and huge life changes. Yet, everything always worked out. And interestingly, the more they trusted and surrendered–the easier everything got and support seemed to show up at their door just when they needed it.

When I allow instead of fight what I’m experiencing—when I release and let go–I can see a strange perfection, even in the midst of chaos and extreme disorder. I can look at my messy house, my complex relationships, my less than perfect financial plan and observe the underlying truth: everything is perfect. Really. I am in the right place, at the right time, right now. I can let go.

A CHALLENGE: For one entire day, play with the idea that everything in your life is in divine order. Every time something appears to “not go your way,” invite in the words: everything is perfect, and see if it creates a shift or change in perception. Be curious, be open, be willing to be surprised. We all need to take off our glasses every now and then, give them a good cleaning and challenge our current world view. I’d love to hear what you learn.

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