How do you abandon yourself?

Recently while facilitating a women’s retreat at Esalen, I shared my definition of self-care with the group: the art of attuning and responding to your needs and desires moment to moment. And then I asked the circle, “Do you feel safe with yourself?” The room grew silent … only one person raised her hand, nodding […]

Finding peace through being with what is

As I along with the rest of the US have attempted to digest all of the crises and atrocities we’ve been observing, I have found myself vacillating between wanting to run out and take action and withdrawing from overwhelm to return to the  safety of my home.  Throughout this emotional roller coast I’ve continued to […]

7 ways to get the vacation you really need

I was visiting with a good friend last week who was feeling exhausted, frustrated and saddened that her recent family vacation was not what she had intended. “We crammed too much in, checked our work email too often and didn’t build in enough downtime. I don’t feel like we really got to connect as a family,” she shared. Planning […]

Self-care & risk-taking: tea with Jennifer Louden

When I was about to release the first edition of The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life in 2005, I reached out to a few wise voices for an endorsement. Jennifer Louden was at the top of my list. Not only did she write a glowing review, she continued […]

Self-care is not self-improvement

I was lying in bed Sunday morning reading from author Anne Lamott’s beautiful little book Small Victories. In one of her stories about parenting, she shares with a little self-deprecation, but mostly tenderness, how she doesn’t bake for PTA fund raisers, is often disorganized and sometimes forgets to follow-through on updates from her son’s school. […]

7 good reasons to ask for help

I’m preparing to launch a new nonprofit organization in Austin this week focused on supporting parents of teens; the underlying premise: community is medicine.  I have many motivations for starting this initiative, but ultimately I have experienced how life-changing it can be to have a support network when going through a challenging life stage.  But asking […]

Are you ready to FEEL GOOD?!

A couple weeks ago I came down with a violent 48 hour stomach bug. After my illness, as I slowly regained my strength, I continued to feel “off” for days afterwards. My mood and energy level were low, my joints felt stiff and I had lost my joie de vivre. As I stewed in this malaise, […]

Permission granted: 5 ways to find rest this holiday

Does the thought of hanging lights and attending holiday work parties make you want to grab your sleeping bag and run for the nearest cave? 2015 has been intense for many of us.  Often, we felt over-scheduled, overworked and we rarely got the chance to unplug.  We navigated big career and life transitions—and had little time […]

Are you making time for friends (and why you should)?

The other night I hosted a book swap and summer gathering for the women in my neighborhood. Most of these women I had never met before but it felt important to me to cultivate these relationships as I know what a huge impact making time for friends–both new and old–can have on our quality of […]

Do less, experience more

Recently, our family was invited to visit friends for the weekend at their cabin on the river, an hour’s drive from our house. The night before we were going to leave, my husband and I were frantically creating lists of all the things we needed to buy, prepare, and pack — when we suddenly paused […]