Letting go = peace of mind

Last week, I had “one of those days” …. double booked appointments, a miscommunication with a vendor, tech gremlins gone wild, a lost check— and suddenly everything felt like it was going from bad to worse. I was trying to wrap up an intense week filled with deadlines before leaving town on a family beach […]

Are you stingy with your love? (+Win a retreat!)

This spring marked the 19-year anniversary of my mom’s passing. Healthy and active, she died at age 60 from congestive heart failure as a result of a sudden, serious case of the flu leaving behind six children ages 19 to 34. She’s been on my mind–and in my dreams–a lot lately. I really miss her. […]

5 ways to find rest & renewal this holiday

Yesterday I spent an hour with my December calendar–not penciling things in, but cancelling pending events and making choices that supported a more open, spacious, restorative winter schedule. Does the thought of hanging lights and attending holiday parties make you want to grab your sherpa blanket and run for the nearest cave? It would be […]

Self-care is a journey, not a destination

This past weekend my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. We got married 16 years ago, thirty days after my healthy 60 year-old mother died suddenly from the flu. My father had died four years earlier at age 56 from a heart attack. I pushed through the weekend festivities and honeymoon, numb. I had […]

Choosing to let go

One time my husband was headed out of town to attend a national conference. As I was driving him to the airport, he casually mentioned he would be making a key presentation to his colleagues and asked if I had any quick tips. This really triggered me; in my former life as a highly sought-after […]

What is uniquely yours to do?

“I don’t want to live in the kind of world where we don’t look out for each other. Not just the people that are close to us, but anybody who needs a helping hand. I can’t change the way anybody else thinks, or what they choose to do, but I can do my bit.” ― […]

What’s your vision for how you want to live?

If one does not know to which port one is sailing, no wind is favorable. Seneca Most people are surprised to hear that I love making a big pot of minestrone soup for my family and neighbors as much as I love getting invited to go to India to speak to a women’s group on […]

9 ways to say no

Things which matter most should never be at the mercy of things which matter least. Goethe It’s October. That time of year when many of us feel like we’re running from one thing to the next and there’s barely time to catch our breath. As much as I’ve worked on dialing it back and doing […]

5 ways I’d love to support you right now

Because you are alive, everything is possible. Thich Nhat Hanh My husband and I have been experiencing some communication bumps over the last week or two. We’ve been stuck in some old ways of relating and have been having a hard time seeing what’s right, what’s good and what’s possible for ourselves and each other. […]

Are you at a threshold, too?

THRESHOLD    noun/thresh·old/ˈthresh-ˌhōld: the starting point for a new state or experience. Yesterday we attended a moving “Ceremony of 13” at our church for my teenage son. Cultures around the world share a tradition of marking the transition from childhood to adulthood beginning at age 13 (in the Jewish tradition this is called a Bar […]