How to say “no” and why it’s so crucial

I woke up Saturday morning and could feel my breath was short and shallow and my chest was tight and constricted. My plate was too full–professionally and personally. Some things had to go. I was born with a lot of energy, and one of my life-long challenges is I tend to over-schedule (read more on […]

3 ways to cultivate an attitude of gratitude

Growing up, our overachiever family placed a high value on competency. Often that translated into a critical mindset toward self and others, where we frequently saw the bad before the good. This way of being, like all patterns, became habitual for many of my siblings. And as my father’s daughter and a champion of “let’s […]

Are you comfortable living with polarities?

“Nothing is either good or bad but thinking makes it so.” ~Shakespeare Around the globe, many of us are experiencing deep frustration and despair right now. Others are expanding joyfully into new ways of being and seeing. And most of us are dancing with both. A long-time client, Erica, is struggling. At the end of […]

Quiet

I’m at the tail end of a month-long writing sabbatical working on a new creative project. I’ve been in Western North Carolina (WNC) in the cool, misty Blue Ridge Mountains, an area that calls to my very essence. Known as the Appalachian temperate rain forest, WNC is perched atop one of the oldest mountain ranges […]

3 reasons to take a digital detox

I recently took a week off from work to unplug (no computer use, email, TV/movies and only minimal phone use). I spent the time working in my garden, writing, swimming, doing creative visioning for my business, walking barefoot outdoors, visiting springs with friends and tending to my soul. Recently I noticed how busy my mind had become […]

7 tips for a more mindful vacation

I was visiting with a good friend last week who was feeling exhausted, frustrated and saddened that her recent family vacation was not what she had intended. “We crammed too much in, checked our work email too often and didn’t build in enough downtime. I don’t feel like we really got to connect as a family,” she shared. Planning […]

Just because you can, doesn’t mean you should

I’m preparing to head to the Blue Ridge Mountains of western North Carolina for a month to “test drive” living there and to dive into a new creative project. This misty, relaxed, tree and waterfall-rich region calls deeply to me and I can’t wait to explore all the creativity, connections and magic I know I’ll […]

Slowing down to the speed of life

This past Thursday I made a conscious effort to lighten my load. I had a visioning retreat to attend in the evening and I wanted to give my brain some time to unplug and digest everything from the week. Moving through my day–eating and fully enjoying breakfast, taking my dog for a walk, watering the […]

5 questions to ask before choosing a therapist

In the past month I probably received at least ten requests from friends and clients asking for referrals for great therapists. Whenever these calls come in, I try and get my friends to slow down, step back and approach this process with mindfulness and intention. Take your time to get this right; you’re going to […]

5 reasons you should consider taking a retreat

Throughout my twenties and thirties when my chest tightened from overwork and I could feel overwhelm lapping at my door, I would increase my work pace, thinking, “I just need to move faster and get more done.” Much of this stemmed from an entrenched but misguided belief that my worth was directly tied to my […]