How I learned to mother myself

There’s been a lot of belly button gazing in our house this past week. My adolescent son told me on Friday, “I’m thinking a lot about my life right now,” my introspective husband is taking a class where he’s contemplating our relationship to the cosmos and having just returned from teaching at the ethereal Esalen Institute in […]

How Depression Helped Me Nurture My Soul

I came out of the womb an optimist. I have what many sociologists call a high “happiness set point.”  Although I have anxious moments, I usually see the glass half full and tend to cycle quickly through negative emotions (so much so that I sometimes have to MAKE myself stop and really experience the full […]

I Choose Love … Again

I vividly remember an afternoon fourteen years ago when I was living in an apartment in central Austin with my husband-to-be, curled up in front of the fireplace reading my dad’s old, weathered copy of Return to Love by author/teacher Marianne Williamson. The book’s core message–that every moment and every day we’re presented with two […]

Serving Up Self-Compassion

Yesterday I felt like I was swimming through mud. I was feeling judgmental and self-critical and everywhere I turned, all I could see were barriers and road blocks. During my morning meditation (the one thing that usually always cleans my “lens”), the negative thoughts kept coming, dancing across my radar like annoying contestants from The Price […]

What Does Self-Care Mean to You? (…and our winner!)

We received more than 300 entries into the Year-of-Self-Care Retreat Giveaway and as I sat reading these moving, inspiring, wise, sometimes funny and very real shares–in response to “What Does Self-Care Mean to Me?”– what touched me deeply were the reoccurring messages of self-forgiveness, releasing guilt and believing I deserve self-care, learning to cultivate self-compassion, […]


Last week I had a day where I felt like I was swimming through steel cut oatmeal (as my west Texas therapist friend Donna likes to say). I was judgmental and finding fault with every person, group, situation, scenario I was bumping up against. And when I meditated, the thoughts I usually watch dance by […]


This past weekend, my family headed to the Texas coast for a 48 hour date with Mother Nature. We have not taken a vacation since my husband was laid off last summer from his software job (he’s on a short-term contract gig right now) and we really needed a break. In general, we like to […]

I Choose Love

Twelve years ago, right before I got married, I vividly remember living in an apartment in central Austin with my husband-to-be and reading Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. The book’s messages changed my life. The core theme that I think about everyday is there are only ever two choices in life: love or fear. […]

Love the One You’re With

Love the one you’re with and that would be you. Bryon Katie, author I’m about to overflow with insights and revelations. If I didn’t have so many deadlines this week, I’d grab my journal and pens, head for the nearest cave with a bag of pistachios and a jug of water and write, write, write! […]

Letting Go

As I write the theme for this post in the subject line above, I can feel half my body applauding loudly and the other half saying, “Really?!” Sitting at my desk at work right now surrounded by tax forms, to-do lists, contracts to review and pistachios–I’m juggling one of our cars being in the shop […]