Maybe everything is perfect

“If you want reality to be different than what it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark.” Author/teacher Byron Katie We had a really bumpy holiday. There was some extended-family discord around our Christmas celebration, a series of unexpected, stressful events in December, a foregone mini-vacation due to a case […]

7 self-care practices I can’t live without

The last month has been particularly intense. I’ve had an extra-full plate at work, I haven’t been sleeping well, I’ve been navigating some bumpy family stuff and the holidays are always an emotionally intense time for me. In the old days I would have turned to some not-so-healthy habits to relieve my stress, but today, […]

Why we love rituals & why they matter

Life is not a thing to be managed, but a mystery to be lived. Recently my extended family got into a bit of a heated mess around a long-time Christmas giving tradition and how best –or even why— we should continue to honor it. It really crystallized for me how key these sacred touchstones are […]

Are you getting your 8 hugs a day?

A hug is like a boomerang – you get it back right away. ~Bil Keane, “Family Circus” I love my sister-in-law Ronna. The first time I met her, she gave me the most incredible hug. It wasn’t obligatory, wimpy or semi-commital. It was a full-on bear hug, complete with belly contact and a stout, strong, enveloping embrace. […]

Are you ignoring your emotional self-care?

This morning I woke up feeling fabulously nourished and complete. What happened? This past weekend I attended a beautiful holiday sing-a-long, had a three-hour lunch with a dear girlfriend, picked up our new rescue pup and last night I hosted a meditation circle. All of this “belly time” (face-to-face connection) and heart-nurturing left me feeling […]

Is it time for some truth telling?

“Honesty is more than not lying. It is truth-telling, truth-speaking, truth living, and truth-loving.” ― James E. Faust Ever since I was a young girl I’ve been a truth teller.  My career coaching clients and author friends call me a catalyst, a lightening bolt, your personal wake-up call. I am the person who sees and acknowledges […]

5 ways to support rest & renewal this holiday

Yesterday I spent an hour with my November/December calendar–not penciling things in, but cancelling pending events and making choices that supported a more open, spacious, restorative winter schedule. Does the thought of hanging lights and attending holiday parties make you want to grab your sleeping bag and run for the nearest cave? It would be […]

8 ways to own your power

Allison, one of our career coaching clients, had a rough week. After she received a disconcerting email from a new business partner, it became clear they were not on the same page. Allison paused and decided to stop the email tennis match, pick up the phone and set up a walking date with her colleague […]

How bad do you want to feel good?

Throughout my twenties and early thirties, I can honestly say most of the time I was walking around with low grade anxiety. I just never knew it. I thought feeling not good enough at work (even though I was exhibiting extreme outward success); succumbing daily to should’s; agreeing to take on volunteer tasks and outside […]

Do you force or allow things to happen?

“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” ― Lao Tzu As a communications director, throughout my twenties and most of my […]