Be gentle with yourself

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. Buddha When I was around 30, I used to […]

3 self-care practices that keep me sane

Self-care is not about adding something to your to-do list, it’s about cultivating a kinder, gentler relationship with yourself. Renee Trudeau Our family is navigating some big transitions this month (who’s not, right now?!). As I shift into allowing myself to take life hour by hour, as needed, I rest in the reminder that I’ve got […]

Give yourself a break

Growing up I was often inspired by my parent’s generosity towards those less fortunate. They would write checks to causes, donate household items, handout food to the homeless, sponsor foster kids to attend community events and encourage us to do the same. They also modeled an altruistic spirit, often remarking after observing unsavory behavior, “Let’s […]

What does self-care mean to you?

Last week I connected with some powerful national presenters and we discussed the concept of self-care. Like many, they see self-care as something you “should do” for your physical health (exercise, eat well, get enough sleep), but that’s where it ends. They were curious when I shared that I define self-care as the art of […]

Sometimes Self-Care Takes (gasp!) Discipline

I’m not sleeping well. I haven’t for the last few weeks. Yes, I’m going to bed at the same time each night, staying tech-free after 8 p.m.,  getting daily exercise, steering clear of caffeine and generally staying with my same calming before-bed routine each night, but I’m 47 and my hormone levels are changing as […]

Serving Up Self-Compassion

Yesterday I felt like I was swimming through mud. I was feeling judgmental and self-critical and everywhere I turned, all I could see were barriers and road blocks. During my morning meditation (the one thing that usually always cleans my “lens”), the negative thoughts kept coming, dancing across my radar like annoying contestants from The Price […]

What Does Self-Care Mean to You? (…and our winner!)

We received more than 300 entries into the Year-of-Self-Care Retreat Giveaway and as I sat reading these moving, inspiring, wise, sometimes funny and very real shares–in response to “What Does Self-Care Mean to Me?”– what touched me deeply were the reoccurring messages of self-forgiveness, releasing guilt and believing I deserve self-care, learning to cultivate self-compassion, […]


Last week I had a day where I felt like I was swimming through steel cut oatmeal (as my west Texas therapist friend Donna likes to say). I was judgmental and finding fault with every person, group, situation, scenario I was bumping up against. And when I meditated, the thoughts I usually watch dance by […]


This past weekend, my family headed to the Texas coast for a 48 hour date with Mother Nature. We have not taken a vacation since my husband was laid off last summer from his software job (he’s on a short-term contract gig right now) and we really needed a break. In general, we like to […]

I Choose Love

Twelve years ago, right before I got married, I vividly remember living in an apartment in central Austin with my husband-to-be and reading Return to Love by Marianne Williamson. The book’s messages changed my life. The core theme that I think about everyday is there are only ever two choices in life: love or fear. […]