Meditation saves me from myself

“I’m sorry. For everything. Can you forgive me?” This was the text I sent to a beloved Sunday night coming off of a two-day silent meditation retreat with Adyashanti. Meditation always brings me to new understandings. Sometimes to supreme clarity. And always to my most humble and soft places. After meditating for long stretches of […]

5 reasons you should consider taking a retreat

Throughout my twenties and thirties when my chest tightened from overwork and I could feel overwhelm lapping at my door, I would increase my work pace, thinking, “I just need to move faster and get more done.” Much of this stemmed from an entrenched but misguided belief that my worth was directly tied to my […]

Don’t just do something, sit there

I feel edgy. And unsettled. And a bit anxious. Between the bomb violence in Austin last week (my hometown), the current political climate, the wonderful but emotional March for our Lives rallies on Saturday and my always-pushing-the-boundaries teen, I’m not feeling too grounded. So rather than slide into my typical MO of over-doing or trying […]

Some times call for radical self-care

I’ve been navigating some rocky family terrain over the last couple of months.  While I can’t go into the details, the situation has come to a head. I’ve had enough. This morning, though, I had a big realization. I’ve been trying to do business as usual—running my coaching firm, preparing for travel/speaking events and helping […]

The Best Investment You Can Make

I just returned from an international women’s conference featuring personal development, leadership, life purpose and international women’s rights speakers from around the world. From authors Elizabeth Gilbert and Marianne Williamson to journalist activists Lisa Ling and Zainab Salbi (founder of Women for Women International)–everyone stressed the importance of regularly stepping back from your life to […]

4 ways to schedule time for reflection

Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world … what are you doing to nurture your inner life? I relish this time of year: my birthday is Jan. 7th (I’m excited to celebrate my big 5-0!), winter beckons us to nest, hibernate and slow down, I love the rich spiritual tapestry of the holy season […]

Be gentle with yourself

You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection. Buddha When I was around 30, I used to […]

What self-care is NOT

I was lying in bed Sunday morning reading from author Anne Lamott’s beautiful little book Small Victories. In one of her stories about parenting, she shares with a little self-deprecation, but mostly tenderness, how she doesn’t bake for PTA fund raisers, is often disorganized and sometimes forgets to follow-through on updates from her son’s school. […]

Do you live … intentionally?

My family is thinking of moving to a different area of Austin. This is part of a larger plan we’re piecing together around how we want to work, play, connect, foster community, generate revenue and “be” in the second half of our life. (Read more about making hard life choices from my blog last week.) […]

Wanna “do it different?!” (and why we should)

I recently attended an artists’ studio tour in my hometown. Seeing these amazing avant-garde work/home/creative spaces was a powerful reminder that there is no “one way” to live or work. Drinking in this visual feast of multimedia, oil paintings, woodwork and sculpture, pottery and glassblowing brought my imagination alive and inspired me to re-visit one […]