9 ways to reclaim your power

Alicia, one of our career coaching clients, had a rough week. After she received a disconcerting email from a new business partner, it became clear they were not on the same page. Alicia paused and decided to stop the email tennis match, pick up the phone and set up a walking date with her colleague […]

Are you over-managing your life?

“Sometimes letting things go is an act of far greater power than defending or hanging on.” ― Eckhart Tolle,  A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose A few years ago I got really tired of  juggling and always trying to anticipate/manage the endless details of my family life and business. I knew there had […]

Crazy-busy? Try incremental self-care

Last week I was visiting with my brother, a management consultant. He just started a new position based in another state, he has a toddler and a blended family, he travels for work and he’s working in an uber-fast-paced industry. We talked about his struggle to find balance and I suggested he play with a […]

What determines YOUR happiness?

“The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation, but your thoughts about it.” ― Eckhart Tolle, A New Earth: Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose Last week my teen son and I were getting along smashingly. He was affectionate, appreciative, communicative and practicing good self-care. But knowing what a roller coaster ride it can be […]

Beware of a sense of urgency

When I was thirty and working as a media relations director, my therapist — a wise soul who coached me on stress management and how to understand the connection between my thoughts and my mood-– stopped me dead in my tracks one day with the words, “Beware of a sense of urgency.” My initial response […]

Why being out of balance can be a good thing

This week I’m observing my 14 year-old ninth grader attempt to navigate increased academic, sports, extracurricular and social demands (and doing all I can to stay hands-off), and I’m reminded of a time in my late twenties when the idea of life balance was completely foreign to me. I was working as a public relations […]

6 things to do when life feels tough

I was visiting with a dear friend this past weekend who shared she’s battling depression. “It comes and it goes. But when it returns, I often freeze and forget what helps me most; all my great self-care practices fly right out the window,” she said. I could relate. Recently I had a bomb dropped on […]

3 (surprising) reasons I keep doing yoga

This weekend I was on the massage table when out of the blue my therapist asked, “What do you do to heal when someone close to you dies?” I thought for a moment–having experienced a lot of loss in my family–and answered, “I do yoga.” I have found conscious movement and breathing–experienced through practices like […]

7 back-to-school strategies to promote less stress & more flow

It’s 1976. I’m in fifth grade and standing by our front door with my red plaid backpack. My eyes scanning, I watch my four younger brothers dart from room to room. My stomach is in knots. It’s 7:45 a.m. We should have left fifteen minutes ago. Lunches are half-made, my brothers are shooting slingshots and […]

How do you abandon yourself?

Recently while facilitating a women’s retreat at Esalen, I shared my definition of self-care with the group: the art of attuning and responding to your needs and desires moment to moment. And then I asked the circle, “Do you feel safe with yourself?” The room grew silent … only one person raised her hand, nodding […]