Finding the answers to your biggest questions

Remember, the entrance to the sanctuary door is inside you. ~Rumi In my former life as a career strategist, I worked for years with successful men and women around career changes and aligning “who they are with what they do.” One of the things I would share at our first career coaching session is that […]

My initiation into summer

Yesterday a dear friend and I met up for a Nia class.  She has three teenagers, so it’s precious time when we get to connect.  We got the date wrong, the studio was empty and we found ourselves sitting in the hot car deciding what to do next. Should we scan our FB invites for an activity, […]

Self-care & risk-taking: tea with Jennifer Louden

When I was about to release the first edition of The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life in 2005, I reached out to a few wise voices for an endorsement. Jennifer Louden was at the top of my list. Not only did she write a glowing review, she continued […]

3 ways to slow down this summer

One of my touchstones for gauging how fast–or slow–I’m living, is noticing if I have a vase of fresh herbs and flowers on my desk. When I’m living the life I desire, I create the time to meander in my garden and pick colorful, fragrant flowers and plants to enjoy in my office. What’s your […]

6 ways to find comfort in uncertain times

Last week I had a brush with someone I’ve known a long time who acted uncharacteristically rude and unkind. While their behavior was immature and irrational, rather than rise up to counter him, I just walked away and let it be. This was not only wise, it was good self-care. Lately, I have observed how many friends, […]

Men need self-care, too

This past Sunday afternoon everyone in our family had competing desires: my son wanted to have a friend over, I wanted to get a massage and my husband wanted to play at a house concert with his band. We juggled and all ended up getting our needs met, but the person who returned home most […]

Are you choosing love … or fear?

This past Sunday evening on Mother’s Day, I returned home from an amazing retreat feeling euphoric and transformed. My husband and son picked me up from the airport. My teen had just returned from a late-night sleepover so my expectations for the evening were low: a quick bite out at our favorite pizza spot and […]

Self-care is a journey, not a destination

This past weekend my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. We got married 16 years ago, thirty days after my healthy 60 year-old mother died suddenly from the flu. My father had died four years earlier at age 56 from a heart attack. I pushed through the weekend festivities and honeymoon, numb. I had […]

What we crave: connection & community

Recently after speaking at a women’s leadership conference on work-life balance, I was approached by a woman from the audience, her eyes were filled with tears. She said while sitting listening to me talk about the importance of building a support network (read more), she had a light bulb moment. Even though she attended a […]

Maybe it’s time to re-frame your circumstances?

I was once at a workshop with mindfulness teacher Tara Brach where she shared a line about a son who sends his mother a telegram that reads, “Start worrying. Reasons to follow shortly.” I love this! Have you ever found yourself in an endless cycle of worry, fear, irritation or frustration about how your life […]