6 ways to find comfort in uncertain times

Last week I had a brush with someone I’ve known a long time who acted uncharacteristically rude and unkind. While their behavior was immature and irrational, rather than rise up to counter him, I just walked away and let it be. This was not only wise, it was good self-care. Lately, I have observed how many friends, […]

Men need self-care, too

This past Sunday afternoon everyone in our family had competing desires: my son wanted to have a friend over, I wanted to get a massage and my husband wanted to play at a house concert with his band. We juggled and all ended up getting our needs met, but the person who returned home most […]

Are you choosing love … or fear?

This past Sunday evening on Mother’s Day, I returned home from an amazing retreat feeling euphoric and transformed. My husband and son picked me up from the airport. My teen had just returned from a late-night sleepover so my expectations for the evening were low: a quick bite out at our favorite pizza spot and […]

Self-care is a journey, not a destination

This past weekend my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. We got married 16 years ago, thirty days after my healthy 60 year-old mother died suddenly from the flu. My father had died four years earlier at age 56 from a heart attack. I pushed through the weekend festivities and honeymoon, numb. I had […]

What we crave: connection & community

Recently after speaking at a women’s leadership conference on work-life balance, I was approached by a woman from the audience, her eyes were filled with tears. She said while sitting listening to me talk about the importance of building a support network (read more), she had a light bulb moment. Even though she attended a […]

Maybe it’s time to re-frame your circumstances?

I was once at a workshop with mindfulness teacher Tara Brach where she shared a line about a son who sends his mother a telegram that reads, “Start worrying. Reasons to follow shortly.” I love this! Have you ever found yourself in an endless cycle of worry, fear, irritation or frustration about how your life […]

7 ways to stay connected to your partner

Everywhere I turn my friends are navigating choppy waters in their most intimate relationships. This makes my heart hurt, but I can relate. Lately, my husband and I have been feeling out of sync and stressed out from parenting our wonderful, passionate, intense teenager (wow, can the “adolescent differentiation process” test your marriage!). We went […]

Can you go with the flow?

“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” – Lao Tzu Last weekend my teenager was in total disequilibrium. My […]

The power of the pause

“Are you listening to your life; what is it trying to tell you?” Some people are surprised to hear that I get as excited about making a big pot of minestrone soup for my family and friends as I do  at receiving an invitation to go to India to speak to a women’s group on […]

Choosing to let go

One time my husband was headed out of town to attend a national conference. As I was driving him to the airport, he casually mentioned he would be making a key presentation to his colleagues and asked if I had any quick tips. This really triggered me; in my former life as a highly sought-after […]