Self-care is a journey, not a destination

This past weekend my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. We got married 16 years ago, thirty days after my healthy 60 year-old mother died suddenly from the flu. My father had died four years earlier at age 56 from a heart attack. I pushed through the weekend festivities and honeymoon, numb. I had […]

What we crave: connection & community

Recently after speaking at a women’s leadership conference on work-life balance, I was approached by a woman from the audience, her eyes were filled with tears. She said while sitting listening to me talk about the importance of building a support network (read more), she had a light bulb moment. Even though she attended a […]

Maybe it’s time to re-frame your circumstances?

I was once at a workshop with mindfulness teacher Tara Brach where she shared a line about a son who sends his mother a telegram that reads, “Start worrying. Reasons to follow shortly.” I love this! Have you ever found yourself in an endless cycle of worry, fear, irritation or frustration about how your life […]

7 ways to stay connected to your partner

Everywhere I turn my friends are navigating choppy waters in their most intimate relationships. This makes my heart hurt, but I can relate. Lately, my husband and I have been feeling out of sync and stressed out from parenting our wonderful, passionate, intense teenager (wow, can the “adolescent differentiation process” test your marriage!). We went […]

Can you go with the flow?

“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.” – Lao Tzu Last weekend my teenager was in total disequilibrium. My […]

The power of the pause

“Are you listening to your life; what is it trying to tell you?” Some people are surprised to hear that I get as excited about making a big pot of minestrone soup for my family and friends as I do  at receiving an invitation to go to India to speak to a women’s group on […]

Choosing to let go

One time my husband was headed out of town to attend a national conference. As I was driving him to the airport, he casually mentioned he would be making a key presentation to his colleagues and asked if I had any quick tips. This really triggered me; in my former life as a highly sought-after […]

Things to do when life feels hard

I was visiting with a dear friend this past weekend who shared she’s battling depression. “It comes and it goes. But when it returns, I often freeze and forget what helps me most; all my great self-care practices fly right out the window,” she said. I could relate. Last week I had a bomb dropped […]

9 ways to reclaim our humanness

The other morning my husband and I were milling around in the kitchen making breakfast and lunches and preparing for school and work. We looked up and saw our 13 year-old on his computer. My husband took a peek as he walked behind my son’s back—we have “no screens before school” policy as we believe […]

5 tips for choosing a therapist

Who looks outside, dreams; who looks inside, awakes. Carl Jung In the past month I probably received at least ten requests from friends asking for referrals for great therapists. Whenever these calls come in, I try and get my friends to slow down, step back and approach this process with mindfulness and intention. Take your […]