Simplifying from the inside-out

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I remember one 4th of July weekend when my husband and I gathered a small group of friends for a “Freedom Fest.” No fireworks, hot dogs, or Tchaikovsky. Instead, we had a potluck and asked each guest to bring one thing that “I want to be free from,” such as a habit, worry, situation, or […]

Holding it together is overrated

The messy haphazardness of this Big Bend landscape is ... perfect.

I’m known as the oldest of seven, the product of overachievers, a hyper-competent “woman who always has answers and knows where she’s going,” the go-to girl–the one who always seems have it together. And as I move deeper into the second half of my life, I’m questioning how this affects me–what is the price I […]

What are you missing?


In the next three weeks, I will be managing an extra full plate at work: multiple speaking engagements, leading a retreat, finishing a new telecourse and more.  And as I look at my schedule–all things I truly love to do and that feed me–at times, I’m finding myself wanting to blink and wake up on […]


“We are not held back by the love we didn’t receive in the past, but by the love we’re not extending in the present.”  ― Marianne Williamson I once spoke at a girls empowerment conference to a group of three hundred ten to thirteen-year-olds. As I was waiting to go on stage, I overheard a small […]

7 reasons you should ask for help

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This morning a dear friend went in for hip surgery and I called together a circle of women to pray for her. And this week as I prepare to head to New York for a week to lead a retreat, I’m calling in ALL the troops–from additional admin help to support from other parents for […]

Do you live intentionally, or haphazardly?


“A strong intention can make ‘two oceans wide’ be the size of a blanket or ‘seven hundred years’ the time it takes to walk to someone you love.” Rumi Do you ever wonder how all the day-to-day choices you make, big and small, affect your family, career and how you live? Do you feel like […]

What are your non-negotiables? (+a girlfriend giveaway)


In our 15 year old career coaching firm, one of the exercises we often have our career exploration clients do–after we’ve worked with them to define what they want, what they do best and what’s a fit for them–is to come up with their top three non-negotiables for their next position. Meaning, what are the […]

6 ways to stress less & simplify this fall

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In the Native American tradition, September signifies the start of a new year. It certainly feels this way to parents. Whether your kids are toddlers or teens, the start of the school year signifies opportunity, a time for a fresh start and a chance to give yourself permission (read Permission Granted) to do things differently. […]

Permission granted to slow down


Ever since my son and I got back from our month off the grid in Western North Carolina–read What the Mountains Taught Me–I’ve been thinking about how speeded up we have all become: plowing through inhumane to-do lists, agreeing to crazy sports practice schedules and insane homework loads, staying up late glued to our online […]

Why we should do it different

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This past weekend my 12 year-old son was out of town and my husband and I enjoyed an extended 48-hour date. We tried a new breakfast spot, drove to the other side of town to clothes shop (a big deal in a city that where traffic has gotten insane), enjoyed late afternoon naps and celebrated the August […]