Maybe everything is perfect

“If you want reality to be different than what it is, you might as well try to teach a cat to bark.” Author/teacher Byron Katie We had a really bumpy holiday. There was some extended-family discord around our Christmas celebration, a series of unexpected, stressful events in December, a foregone mini-vacation due to a case […]

Are you stingy with your love?

This spring marked the 15-year anniversary of my mom’s passing. Healthy and active, she died at age 60 from congestive heart failure as a result of a sudden, serious case of the flu leaving behind six children ages 19 to 34. She’s been on my mind–and in my dreams–a lot lately. I often wonder how […]

7 ways to live inside-out

Last week my husband I were at a dinner party with several other couples. Henry and Amy were lamenting about how much their lives had changed since our potluck dinner the month before. “Just a few weeks ago I was seriously contemplating buying a $90 yoga mat and struggling over whether I should get it […]

Do you live … intentionally?

My family is thinking of moving to a different area of Austin. This is part of a larger plan we’re piecing together around how we want to work, play, connect, foster community, generate revenue and “be” in the second half of our life. (Read more about making hard life choices from my blog last week.) […]

5 reasons I take retreats

“Are you listening to your life–what is it trying to tell you?”  Renee Trudeau Stephen Cope, MSW, author and director of Kripalu’s Institute for Extraordinary Living says retreats don’t change our lives as much as they change where we stand in relationship to our lives—and our capacity to see the hidden possibilities there. I grew […]

Do less, experience more

There are three kinds of people in the world: those whose self-worth rests entirely on “doing”; those who can’t relax and play until they’ve “done their work” (the good old Puritan work ethic); and those who can relax and play at any time and never feel guilty! My husband fits the last category — in […]

Do You Need to Reset?

  In the mid-seventies–as part of a radical move to simplify their lives–my parents hauled my four brothers and I from bustling San Antonio, TX to a remote area of Northern California. We lived in the majestic Sierra Nevada Mountains near the Donner Pass. I rode our horses Bobbie and Pattie bareback, hiked over rocks […]

Living from the Inside-Out

October overwhelm. It’s an old familiar friend. With my natural proclivity to “always think big” (I am a dyed in the wool entrepreneur!), underestimate how much time is needed for tasks and my tendency to take on too much at one time–I can easily find myself juggling more than one should: this week it’s a […]

Ahhh….A Change Is Needed!

My husband and I had a challenging time around communication this past week. Of course, I can quickly blame it on his heady, introverted nature (he’s an INTP if you know Myers Briggs speak), but the truth is it takes two to tango. At the same time we were dealing with our stuff, four friends […]

Choosing Love Over Fear

There are only ever two choices: love or fear. Which path will you take? My writing sabbatical this past July/August was incredible. Incredibly intense that is. I told a friend the other day it was like 30 years of therapy in two months. I went far and deep and visited places I’ve never been before! […]