Wanna “do it different?!” (and why we should)
I recently attended an artists’ studio tour in my hometown. Seeing these amazing avant-garde work/home/creative spaces was a powerful reminder that there is no “one way” to live or work. Drinking in this visual feast of multimedia, oil paintings, woodwork and sculpture, pottery and glassblowing brought my imagination alive and inspired me to re-visit one of my favorite mantras: do it different.
Do it different: meaning shaking life up, looking at it sideways and upside down, changing your routine and habits, challenging how you’ve set up your life and trying on new perspectives or ways of being.
Whether it’s small (driving a new route to or from work or school or changing what you eat for breakfast) or big (walking after dinner each night with your partner or kids instead of watching TV, or taking up the guitar in lieu of smoking)–”doing it different” makes us feel more vibrant, alive, appreciative of our bodies and more grateful for the gift of life.
There’s a lot of research out on how our brains benefit when we “do it different.” We actually create new neural pathways and enhance brain performance and memory when we mix it up (ever wonder why your 69-year old friend who is always signing up for new cooking classes, taking up qi gong and learning how to salsa is sharp as a tack?!).
Much of our daily routine is rote. We’ve fallen into habitual, unconscious ways of doing, being and seeing (from what we eat, read, watch, say, and listen– to how we respond to family, co-workers and others we meet throughout the course of our day). Author and neuroscientist Joe Dispenza says we have about 60-70,000 thoughts a day and 90% of today’s thoughts are the same ones we had yesterday!
I’m reading The Power of Habit: Why We Do What We Do in Life and In Business right by Charles Duhigg (highly recommended). He says we basically move through our days—like rats in a maze– in an endless cycle of “cue-routine-reward.” Most of the time, we aren’t making conscious choices or doing things because they work, they’re the best for us or because they bring us joy–we do the same things over and over because they’re familiar.
I offer an ongoing New Way of Being telecourse where I challenge men and women by asking, “If we dropped our old ways of thinking and seeing and released habitual ways of being, what would a higher, more evolved version of who we are– look like?” (I’m not saying we’re self-improvement projects or trying to fix ourselves—but am encouraging us to cultivate curiosity for what it would feel like to come into the highest expression of who we are.)
In Breaking Free and Making Hard Choices, Chapter nine from my new book Nurturing the Soul of Your Family, I share, “In essence, habits are nothing more than a choice we make over and over again until the new behavior becomes automatic. “ But as author Robert Puller said, “Good habits, once established, are just as hard to break as are bad habits.” We have to be willing to wake up from “Groundhog Day,” –and question why we’re doing what we’re doing. Every single day.
I’m looking forward to “doing it different,” throughout April and seeing where I can keep challenging myself to step out of my ruts and start embracing more freedom and joy. I’d love for you to join me.
SUGGESTED RESOURCES: Seeking support this month for doing it different? Considering attending my April 19-21 New Way of Being: Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat in Big Sur, CA, my April 22 evening mini self-renewal retreat in Santa Cruz or becoming a trained RTA-Certified Facilitator and utilizing my award-winning curriculum to help yourself and other women in your community- do it different!
Live Inside Out is a weekly blog written by life balance teachers/speaker author Renée Peterson Trudeau. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Good Housekeeping and numerous media outlets. Thousands of women in ten countries are participating in Personal Renewal Groups based on her first book, The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal. She lives in Austin, Texas, with her husband and son. More on her background here.