Why Kindness Matters and 3 Ways to Begin
One time while leading a workshop in California, my teaching assistant and I had a rude, jarring experience with another presenter. We later found out he had recently lost his partner. Consequently, our hearts softened and our perspective of the episode shifted. Clearly, he was rattled and trying to navigate his way through a fog of grief.
This is the season when many deep feelings surface (read 8 Ways to Embrace Your Shadow) and we typically spend more time with our extended family. Knowing I am heading out of town to be with my siblings, I recently sat down with kindness and we had tea. She revealed three ways I can bring more kindness into my life this week:
–Practicing kindness to self. No doubt, this is just as important as extending kindness to others. When we’re kind to ourselves, we soften and relax into our relationships. We’re less reactive and more present and curious.
–Extending acts of kindness to others. One of the things that always pulls me out of a slump is to consciously–but quietly and often anonymously—do something kind for someone else. Every day. Whether it’s bringing an unexpected pot of soup to a sick friend, promoting a new small business owner’s work to help her get seen, sending someone who is suffering a beautiful card of love/appreciation or bringing a basket of hot tamales to a group of homeless friends—these acts help me put my issues in perspective and feel more connected to humanity’s suffering as whole.
–Adopting a kindness mindset. Often this looks like giving people the benefit of the doubt, remembering everyone has a hard load they’re carrying and acknowledging we’re all doing the best we can do (and when we know better, we’ll do better). Leaving your house each day with a “kindness mindset” shifts everything. And it’s contagious. Ask: in this moment, am I choosing to come from love or fear?
To explore this idea, pause before you leave your home each day, put your hand on your heart and say the following (thanks Jack Kornfield):
May I be filled with lovingkindness.
May I be safe from inner and outer dangers.
May I be well in body and mind.
May I be at ease and happy.
Then when you feel you have established a stronger sense of lovingkindness for yourself, you can then expand your meditation to include others. After focusing on yourself for five or ten minutes, choose a benefactor, someone in your life who is suffering or perhaps needs extra support. Picture this person and thoughtfully recite the same phrases above.
Kindness is underrated. I have been amazed to see how deeply this practice has affected my well-being and those around me when it’s a “front and center” focus. Mother Teresa shared, “Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless.”
Warmly,
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