My initiation into summer
Life Balance
Yesterday a dear friend and I met up for a Nia class. She has three teenagers, so it's precious time when we get to connect. We got the date wrong, the studio was empty and we found ourselves sitting in the hot car deciding what…
Self-care & risk-taking: tea with Jennifer Louden
Self-Care
When I was about to release the first edition of The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life in 2005, I reached out to a few wise voices for an endorsement. Jennifer Louden was at the top of my…
3 ways to slow down this summer
Mindfulness
One of my touchstones for gauging how fast–or slow–I’m living, is noticing if I have a vase of fresh herbs and flowers on my desk. When I’m living the life I desire, I create the time to meander in my garden and pick colorful, fragrant…
6 ways to find comfort in uncertain times
Self-Care
Last week I had a brush with someone I’ve known a long time who acted uncharacteristically rude and unkind. While their behavior was immature and irrational, rather than rise up to counter him, I just walked away and let it be. This…
Men need self-care, too
Self-Care
This past Sunday afternoon everyone in our family had competing desires: my son wanted to have a friend over, I wanted to get a massage and my husband wanted to play at a house concert with his band. We juggled and all ended up getting our…
Are you choosing love … or fear?
Women's Empowerment
This past Sunday evening on Mother’s Day, I returned home from an amazing retreat feeling euphoric and transformed. My husband and son picked me up from the airport. My teen had just returned from a late-night sleepover so my expectations…
Self-care is a journey, not a destination
Self-Care
This past weekend my husband and I celebrated our wedding anniversary. We got married 16 years ago, thirty days after my healthy 60 year-old mother died suddenly from the flu. My father had died four years earlier at age 56 from a heart…
What we crave: connection & community
Women's Empowerment
Recently after speaking at a women's leadership conference on work-life balance, I was approached by a woman from the audience, her eyes were filled with tears.
She said while sitting listening to me talk about the importance of building…
Maybe it’s time to re-frame your circumstances?
Life Balance, Mindfulness
I was once at a workshop with mindfulness teacher Tara Brach where she shared a line about a son who sends his mother a telegram that reads, "Start worrying. Reasons to follow shortly." I love this!
Have you ever found yourself in an…
7 ways to stay connected to your partner
Self-Care
Everywhere I turn my friends are navigating choppy waters in their most intimate relationships. This makes my heart hurt, but I can relate. Lately, my husband and I have been feeling out of sync and stressed out from parenting our wonderful,…
Can you go with the flow?
Work Life Balance
“Water is fluid, soft, and yielding. But water will wear away rock, which is rigid and cannot yield. As a rule, whatever is fluid, soft, and yielding will overcome whatever is rigid and hard. This is another paradox: what is soft is strong.”…
The power of the pause
Life Balance
"Are you listening to your life; what is it trying to tell you?”
Some people are surprised to hear that I get as excited about making a big pot of minestrone soup for my family and friends as I do at receiving an invitation to go…