The Only New Year’s Resolution We Need

During a family holiday trip to Texas, we watched an apocalyptic thriller about cyber-attacks, survival and class/racial tension. As the story unfolds there are countless times when the two families who are thrown together to navigate numerous world-ending calamities get to decide if they will approach their interactions with one another from fear… or from love. The fear/love tango was a constant throughout the movie, but ultimately when the main characters were at their most vulnerable, love won.

Most great spiritual teachers and traditions tell us we only ever have two choices in how we approach our lives and day-to-day interactions: from fear or from love.

When relationships are viewed through the eyes of love, we:

• trust—and allow those we love to follow their unique path (even if we don’t agree);
• practice acceptance and let go (of parenting struggles, of who’s right, and so on);
• listen from our hearts in our interactions and respond in the moment;
• communicate openly and are more receptive and flexible;
• come from a prosperity mindset and see that there is always “enough” time, attention, space, and resources;
• see everyone’s true essence, who they really are, not how they’re acting in the moment; and
• are able to feel more compassionate towards ourselves and others.

When relationships are viewed through the eyes of fear, we:

• try to control, manipulate, and micromanage people and situations, thinking we always know best;
• think things are good only when they’re going “our” way;
• operate from our heads and fall into over-thinking, criticizing and over-managing;
• become reactive and get easily triggered;
• respond negatively and see problems first, instead of acknowledging what’s going well;
• come from a poverty mindset and feel like there is never enough;
• punish, judge, and isolate ourselves from others.

Reading these extremes, who wouldn’t want to choose love over fear? We all want to feel open, free, generous and fully available to one another. But often, this is hard. It’s easy to fall into old habitual patterns—like feeling victimized, righteous, resentful or seeing what’s wrong in a situation without acknowledging what’s right. Choosing love over fear takes mindfulness—even vigilance—and a willingness to consciously choose this path, moment to moment. Again and again.

Watching this movie made me wonder how I would respond to strangers if faced with an end-of-the-world scenario. I would love to think I would choose love and connection instead of succumbing to fear. This was a powerful reminder that we always, at any point, have a choice. And if we don’t like where we’re headed we can pause, shift and course-correct.

We can choose to drop our fear-filled backpacks and step into a lighter, more generous way of being. We can choose love. Throughout 2025 and every day.

Warmly,

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