Six Tips For A More Mindful Holiday Season

Recently, my extended family all hopped on a Zoom call to pause, check-in and share our intentions for this holiday season, asking: what’s most important to us during our time together and what we each need right now when it comes to self-care?

We decided to dump some old traditions and are choosing to keep things easy, simple and spacious. It felt great to all get on the same page.

This time of year can be particularly emotional, intense and taxing on our relationships. And, gatherings can be stressful if you’re not mindful of your own needs (and state of being) before circling up with others.

Entering this season intentionally and with a bit of emotional self-care preparation and planning could be the best gift you could receive this holiday. Consider:

1. Staying in your own rowboat. We are all energy beings but we often forget this when we gather as a clan. Feeling off? It may not be you. Own your own stuff, but be mindful to not absorb other people’s anger, sadness or frustration. I love Dr. Judith Orloff’s book “The Empath’s Survival Guide.”
2. Making rest a priority. (Download my virtual Solace: A Deep Rest Winter Solstice retreat.) We can get really cranky really fast if we’re over-doing, going to bed too late or committing to things that don’t feed us. At our family gatherings, we often have a dedicated “nap room” for guests. Read more about prioritizing rest.
3. Setting a hard beginning and ending time for visits. A really sweet time can head south fast if folks overstay their welcome. Make sure to get on the same page about the length of celebrations and extended family stays.
4. Dropping expectations and focusing on connection. We can get bent out of shape when we don’t go with the flow and practice “good is good enough”. I always ask myself, “What if this were the last time I were to see _______?”  This puts things in perspective. I love the reminder: You can be right or you can be in relationship.
5. Keeping your self-care at the top of your to-do list. Stay hydrated, eat nutrient-dense foods, keep sugar and alcohol to a minimum and move your body every day! I’m all for indulging occasionally, but ultimately, I always ask myself, “How bad do you want to feel good?”
6. Scheduling post-holiday support now. Book that counseling, mentoring or coaching appointment for December or January now, plan a forest walk with a favorite friend for later this month, or organize a nourishing girl’s or guy’s night out. These touch points will help you recalibrate and find your center in the middle of holiday craziness.

Be extra compassionate and understanding with yourself, your loved ones and friends this season. There is a reason rates of depression jump around the holidays. Many people are grappling with deep loss, feelings of loneliness and most are experiencing a wide spectrum of emotions. Add to that the ongoing uncertainty from the last few months and you have a perfect storm for emotional mayhem. When in doubt, be generous and kind. 

Maya Angelou said, “I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Warmly,

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