Rest IS Radical Self-Care: 5 Ways to Begin
This week I’ve carved out an entire afternoon to spend a relaxed hour with my calendar—not penciling things in, but revisiting pending events and making intentional choices that support a more open, spacious, restorative fall schedule.
Does the thought of packed weekends, endless social gatherings and too-full work days make you want to grab a blanket and head to the nearest cave?
This year has been emotionally intense. In addition to the chaos we’ve all been experiencing on a macro-level, most of us have felt over-scheduled, overworked and unable to unplug. And, we’ve had little time to integrate these changes. Frankly, we’re exhausted. We’re ready for rest. Not a relaxed evening on the deck, but a serious stretch of lazy days, long naps, walks by the river, deep nourishing slumber and joyful, easy, simple connections with friends and family that feed us emotionally and spiritually.
What we most need in the coming weeks is permission to rest, relax, put away our phones and do nothing (I’d love to support you Oct 24-26 in the Berkshire Mountains at Kripalu Center for Yoga and Health for Soul Tending: Cultivating Grace, Power & Intuition, a women’s self-renewal retreat).
However, with all the family expectations, activities and invitations that come knocking on our door—what do we do? I challenge you to take the road less traveled and take a radical stand for what you most need this week—and for the rest of 2025. Consider the following five ideas for reclaiming rest:
- Schedule downtime now. Block out periods on your calendar for “dedicated relaxation,” where your only job is to unplug from electronics and rest. Schedule half-days, full days, weekends or an entire week if you can swing it. Maybe you’ll feel like a nature hike when your period for renewal rolls around or maybe you’re better served by staying in your pajamas, turning off your phone, sipping on warm ginger tea and watching the leaves fall. Make downtime a priority and schedule this now so you can honor your commitment to deep to-the-bones self-renewal.
- Just say no. Decide what’s most important to you and let everything else go. If it’s not an “absolute yes,” then it’s a no. Feel exhausted at the thought of attending your neighbor’s block party? Just say no and let it go. You’ll be glad you did. The opportunity will come back around next year. Our quality of life is always enhanced when we let go of things—not when we add them. Check out my popular 9 Ways to Say No list from my pioneering self-care primer, The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life.
- Ask for help. Give yourself permission to ask for and receive help, whether it’s cooking, socializing or hosting family. Do it differently. Be willing to let go of tradition for the sake of enhanced emotional well-being. Step out of your comfort zone, reach out to friends, neighbors and coworkers and ask for their help so you can create more space for yourself and your family to just “be.” What are three things on your plate right now that you could delegate, outsource or ask for support around?
- Do less to experience more. Positive psychology researchers say we’re happiest when we keep things simple and have fewer choices. We create stress when we try and cram too much into our schedules and to control everything we’re juggling. My colleague, author Joan Borysenko, says, “Your to-do list is immortal; it will live on long after you’re dead.” How can you simplify your fall plans? Popcorn, cider and an evening of great conversation with people who let you show up “warts and all,” is hard to beat. Do less, so you can experience more.
- Unplug and spend time in nature. My colleague/friend Richard Louv, author of The Nature Principle, says, “Time spent in nature is the most cost-effective and powerful way to counteract the burnout and sort of depression that we feel when we sit in front of a computer all day.” I call nature the ultimate antidepressant and reset button. If anyone in my family is exhausted or out of sorts, off to the greenbelt we go. Being in nature offers us nourishment and renewal on all levels—physical, emotional, spiritual and mental. It is a powerful, restorative and healing force. Tap it!
There is an innate push and pull that many of us feel during the fall season. When we pause and tune in to the natural cycles of nature—and our bodies—we hear the call to slow down, go inward and contemplate where we’ve been in the past year and where we want to go.
I challenge you: do it differently this week. What do you most need to replenish and restore? I encourage you to RECLAIM REST and make this number one for yourself … and for your family.
Warmly,
UPCOMING SELF-RENEWAL EVENTS/RESOURCES TO HELP YOU PRIORITIZE REST:
- October 24-26th ~ Soul Tending: Cultivating Grace, Power and Intuition ~ A Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat (photo above) at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health (Berkshire Mountains, Western MA). Packages start at just $635 for this soul-nurturing weekend. Register here! Can’t make it? Join me Jan. 30-Feb. 1 at Kripalu or March 20-22 at 1440 Multiversity in the CA redwoods! Learn more.
- Lead women’s groups/retreats! Secrets to Facilitating Life-Changing Women’s Groups/Retreats ~ an online, self-paced mentoring course. Would you like to empower women in your area through facilitating women’s groups/retreats? Based on Renee’s 30+ years experience training 450+ facilitators and teaching at world-renowned retreat centers like Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health and Esalen Institute, this empowering on-demand video course offers everything you need to start facilitating women’s circles and retreats. Only $195. Learn more.
- Plan a 2026-27 workshop for your team/organization. My primary work is speaking professionally at national/regional conferences, employee events and to companies/organizations worldwide! I love weaving neuroscience, work-life alignment strategies, mindfulness & resiliency practices to create unforgettable workshops & presentations that help employees and teams feel more creative, focused, resourced and alive. Learn about my speaking here and fill out in inquiry form for your next event.
- Join me in the Blue Ridge Mountains of NC for a Wild Souls Adventure: authentic movement classes, community song circles, full moon hikes, meditation/resiliency workshops, women’s circles & more. Have me design a custom experience/ritual for your team/friends: learn more. Join me for Wild Souls Authentic Movement class Sunday, Oct. 12th or 19th here.
Subscribe here to Live Inside Out, a weekly blog written by mindfulness coach/author/speaker and self-care evangelist Renée Peterson Trudeau. Passionate about helping men and women live more intentionally and find balance through the art/science of self-care, Renee has been facilitating high-impact, interactive workshops for Fortune 500 companies, national nonprofits/conferences and organizations/teams worldwide for 25 years. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Fast Company, Good Housekeeping, US News & World Report, AARP, Spirituality & Health and more. She and her team have certified more than 450 facilitators in 10 countries around the globe to lead self-renewal groups/retreats based on her pioneering self-care curriculum. She’s the author of two books on life balance including the award-winning The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life. Renee and her husband live in Western North Carolina and they have one son in New York City. Her latest venture is Wild Souls Nature Adventures. More on Renee here.