From Stillness Comes Discernment: 5 Reasons to Take a Retreat

Throughout my twenties and thirties, when my chest tightened from overwork and I could feel overwhelm lapping at my door, I would increase my work pace, thinking, “I just need to move faster and get more done.” Much of this stemmed from an entrenched, but misguided belief that my worth was directly tied to my productivity.

Fast forward twenty-five years. Today, one of my favorite personal mantras is, “From stillness comes discernment.” I’m a big fan of pausing; I’ve found that if I don’t regularly take time to step back and ask the hard questions (i.e. what makes me come alive? What is my life trying to tell me?), I find myself living a robotic life that is joyless and rote.

Hands down, I believe retreats are one of the best investments you can make in yourself.

Stephen Cope, MSW, author and director of Kripalu’s Institute for Extraordinary Living, where I teach, says retreats don’t change our lives as much as they change where we stand in relationship to our lives—and our capacity to see the hidden possibilities there.

Whether it’s a one-day personal retreat at a nearby greenbelt, an afternoon of journaling in the forest or a weekend experience in the mountains (join me in the Berkshires Oct. 16-18)—retreats have become key to helping me map out my next steps. I consider them to be as essential to balanced living as oxygen. But they take planning, courage and a commitment to step off the hamster wheel, even if just for a bit. I take retreats because they help me:

• navigate career/life transitions: by gathering with others in a supportive, validating environment, I’m reminded that I’m not alone and everyone goes through periods of their life when they feel lost, uncertain and are having trouble finding their way back home. And this realization can make all the difference in how you experience the journey.
• gain a shift in perspective: this intentional time provides me with the “30,000 foot view” and reminds me that, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change,” – Wayne Dyer.
• fill my well: navigating our 24/7 modern lives and living in a culture that rarely “unplugs,” means we need to find ways to recalibrate our bodies, minds and spirits and return to our natural rhythms. Retreats offer the chance to experience a digital detox and deep “to-the-bones” replenishment, rest and renewal. This is key to sustainable living.
• hear what I most need to hear and gain clarity/focus around how and where to direct my energy, time and talents in the coming months or year; I believe we all inherently know what is best for us, we just rarely slow down or get quiet enough to hear our Wise Selves. Often this wisdom comes right to the surface when we’re on a retreat.
• learn to ask for and receive support: giving myself permission to drop my persona, “come as you are,” and receive help from like-minded people who see the highest and best in me is freeing and exhilarating and it reminds me of who I really am. We’re all one another’s teachers; often, the biggest “pearls” from a retreat experience come from other retreat participants who are sitting just a few feet away.

I’m currently exploring how and where I am best meant to serve in my sixties. As I sit with, “What is uniquely mine to do?” and examine various opportunities coming my way, I make it a point to take a one-day retreat every 90 days so I can sit thoughtfully with this question (read tips here on planning a personal DIY retreat). Additionally, I take a guided retreat at least twice a year and allow myself to be “held” in a healing space by others who are figuring out all the logistics!

I feel honored and privileged to have been able to create and facilitate retreats for others for the last 25 years. However, even if I didn’t do this for work, I would still be committed to regularly stepping away from my life. Does the thought of taking a women’s retreat sound scary? Read feedback from some of our retreat alums. Retreats are powerful and life-changing. If not now, then when?

Warmly,

 

FOUR WAYS TO PRIORITIZE YOUR SELF-CARE:

• *THREE WEEKS AWAY, ALMOST SOLD OUT!* Oct. 16-18 ~ Awaken Your Wild Soul: Reclaim Your Purpose, Power & Inner Wisdom ~ A Women’s Self-Renewal Retreat. Join me at Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health in the Berkshire Mountains of MA during peak leaf color for the ultimate fall self-care retreat. Learn more/register here.  P.S. I’ll be back at Kripalu Feb. 5-7 for a winter retreat! 
• *Registration now open!*  Sept. 23-29, 2027  Sing, Dance Pray: A Pilgrimage to Iona, Scotland with Renee. Only 8 spots left. Learn more/register (early bird rate ends September 30th).
• Are you feeling called to facilitate women’s groups/retreats? Check out Secrets to Facilitating Life-Changing Women’s Groups/Retreats ~ an online, self-paced training & mentoring course. Only $195. Learn more/enroll here.
• Live in the Southeast or near North Carolina? Join me in the NC Blue Ridge Mountains for a Wild Souls Adventure: authentic movement classes, community song circles, full moon hikes, meditation/resiliency workshops, women’s circles & more or have me design a custom experience/ritual for your team/friends: learn more. Join us on Sundays for Wild Souls Authentic Movement classes in Brevard, NC outside of Asheville; learn more here.  

Subscribe here to Live Inside Out, a weekly blog written by transformational coach/author/speaker and self-care evangelist Renée Peterson Trudeau. Passionate about helping men and women live more intentionally and find balance through the art/science of self-care, Renee has been facilitating high-impact, interactive workshops for Fortune 500 companies, national nonprofits/conferences and organizations/teams worldwide for 25 years. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, Fast Company, Good Housekeeping, US News & World Report, AARP, Spirituality & Health and more. She and her team have certified more than 450 facilitators in 10 countries around the globe to lead self-renewal groups/retreats based on her pioneering self-care curriculum. She’s the author of several books on life balance including the award-winning The Mother’s Guide to Self-Renewal: How to Reclaim, Rejuvenate and Re-Balance Your Life. Renee and her husband live in Western North Carolina and they have one son in New York City. Her latest venture is Wild Souls Nature Adventures. More on Renee here.